My name is Aris. Aris is pronounced (heiress) and I'm not sure what the meaning is. Several years ago, when I was asked what my name meant, I replied that Aris was a Greek Sexx Goddess (what can I say I'm a romance writer). Unfortunately, my husband happened to be near, he looked over at me, rolled his eyes, and said very loudly "I wish". I've moved on to another story, which happens to be true. I was born in the seventies to a pair of hippies, real hippies. Having said that, I think I got off lucky with the name Aris. It could have been much worse, Fruit Stand or something like that. So, Aris it is.

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Woke Up To A Little Black Box!

I know that we girls are princesses and shame on any man that tries to convince us different. Since my name is Aris (pronounced heiress) I’ve been trying to convince my hubby that I am entitle to a crown and I’ll take it in the form of jewelry. I love this ring and this necklace…so far I’ve gotten nothing.

Aris, heiress, princess…it makes no difference. He’s just not a believer that I warrant such a title. He always says something to the effect, “when you show me what you are an heiress to then I will consider the notion.”  Since there is no great wealth to which I stand to inherit…well you can see our struggle.
I’m here to say there is hope—kinda, sotra, maybe. On this ordinary day, with no special occasion, I woke up to a little black box.
So what spurred this unexpected gift? Could it be he’s conceded to the fact that I am a princess…not likely.
Here’s the story:
At the beginning of summer I was doing a lot of gardening. I don’t wear my wedding ring when I garden because I’m terrified that the diamond will fall out (I’ve actually had nightmares about this…upon waking I’ve rushed to the jewelers to have the prongs checked). Anyway, I took the ring off and apparently didn’t wear it for a week. This my hubby noticed.
Conversation with my hubby about two months ago when we were out having dinner.
“Where’s your ring?”
“In my jewelry box.”
“Why aren’t you wearing it?”
“Because I’ve been working in the yard. You know I take it off when I work outside.”
“You haven’t worn it in over a week. Have you been working in the yard all week?”
“I guess I just forgot to put it back on.” Not the thing to say. So I backpedaled. “I’m afraid of bumping it and having the diamond fall out. I’d rather have it in the jewelry box where I know it’s safe.”
Feeling guilty and a little embarrassed that I had forgotten to slip my ring back on my finger for “date night” I steer the conversation in another direction. After that night I hadn’t heard any more about it so I thought that was the end of it…
Conversation this morning when he hands me the little black box.
“Now you have a ring with no stones in it. Wear it when you take your wedding ring off. You can garden in it, bump it,— it can take a beating so keep it on.”


To tell you the truth I feel like I’ve been slightly reprimanded…but who cares! I have a Tiffany ring. Isn’t it lovely? Here it is with my wedding ring.


For those of you that do want stones in it here it is at Tiffany & Co.
I have the best hubby in the world…BTW he said the X’s reminded him of the x’s and o’s I sign my cards and letters with….awwww how sweet. My left ring finger shall never be bare ;o)
xoxoxoxox honey!

~type you soon~
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7 comments:

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  2. That's a sweet story. Thank you for sharing. I lost a wedding ring once. It flew off my finger while playing Frisbee Golf. Never did find it. But my wife replaced it for me and this one only leaves my finger when exercising in a way that pinches my finger if it's on.

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  3. Roland (love that name) your story is what I’m so afraid of happening! Having lost it once I would only take it off when necessary too!

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  4. So much I want to say on this.
    Firstly, we all need not only a crown but a tutu. I bought a crown on Ebay once for about $30. Loved it and I've used it for more than one photo shoot. Misplaced it when I moved though. It's here. Somewhere. I hope.

    The other has to do with rings. I had a wedding ring once. I quickly found out wearing it and being an artist and a musician were not compatible and possibly dangerous. So I didn't wear mine often. Then I got pregnant. The ring never fit again so I never wore it again. I guess my husband wore his. I really don't remember. We got divorced after 16 years anyway. I have found over the years I like to own my jewelry, but I don't like my jewelry to own me. If I feel myself getting too attached to a ring or something, I take it off. My boyfriend gets mad that I don't wear the lapis necklace he gave me all the time. I don't like jewelry that implies ownership. I want to wear it because I want to, not because I have to. And I like wearing many different necklaces, and they don't all play well together. If people are dating and thinking of marriage, they should discuss rings, and feelings about wearing them. Listen to that little voice that says it's your decision to wear your ring all the times, sometimes or not at all. It's that little voice that keep us from losing our identity. I'm sure you love your husband just as much whether you wear your ring or not. And if someone's husband doesn't love them any more, then all the rings in the world won't change that. A ring after all is just a symbol.

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  5. I love that you bought a crown and used it in a photo shoot! You will find it, I know you will ;o)

    I totally understand what you are saying in regards identity—personally I don’t think you can have a healthy relationship unless each person has their own identity and sense of self. I love to wear my ring & not because I have to but because it not only represents commitment and love it represents hard work, great memories, growth, my children, and pride (my hubby and I have a very nice life, a great marriage, and great children however, we’ve worked very hard for it).

    As for the tutu, the look on my husband’s face if he came home and saw me in a tutu wearing a crown would be priceless…LOL

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  6. Wow! Nice!
    I loved the story - awwwwww.
    It was so thoughtful of your hubby to think of that! Wow kudos to him! Husband of the year.
    My hubby is not generally one to give jewelry.
    But he does give some pretty good gifts.

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  7. I thought it was so thoughtful too. My hubby isn't much of a jewelry giver either so it meant even more. It's at Tiffany's being sized as I type ;o) I can't wait to get it back.

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